{"id":409,"date":"2010-06-27T00:00:19","date_gmt":"2010-06-27T07:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sistahology.com\/blog\/?p=409"},"modified":"2010-06-26T23:16:15","modified_gmt":"2010-06-27T06:16:15","slug":"how-to-embrace-your-uniqueness-just-be-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sistahology.com\/blog\/how-to-embrace-your-uniqueness-just-be-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Embrace Your Uniqueness &#038; Just Be Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sometimes, \u00a0it\u2019s easy to raise your own expectations about a situation just because it could possibly come true. I know I\u2019m guilty of doing that \u2013 just when I like someone or I think life\u2019s going well, something goes wrong because I put too much effort into thinking about it<strong>.<\/strong> This is very probable when it comes to friendship or dating, as first impressions can be deceiving. Either that or your nervousness puts a damper on what they thought of you and awkwardness ensued. It\u2019s easy to put yourself into these situations without even realizing it. Being a shy person has its perks as you end up being the listener most of the time. However, when you\u2019re asked a direct question (and you put too much thought into giving the \u201cright\u201d answer), it\u2019s just as bad if you can\u2019t find the words to say.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Awkwardness isn\u2019t a bad thing \u2013 it can be endearing, for one thing. However, it\u2019s not good to let yourself shut down and just mess up a situation just because you\u2019re nervous<strong>.<\/strong> If the person you\u2019re trying to form a relationship with really likes you, they won\u2019t care if you say something silly or mess up a pronunciation. They\u2019ll listen to you no matter what and like you for who you are. From personal experience, I\u2019ve had to put behind me the times when I\u2019ve messed up a possible connection just because I couldn\u2019t think of anything to say and it just got weird. I embrace my personality, but sometimes, it\u2019s hard not to freak out while talking to someone of interest or new in your life. When the inevitable \u201cawkward silence\u201d comes out, it\u2019s best to find humor in the situation. Laugh a little. It catches on!<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">One huge tip I have for the nervous-talkers is<strong>: BE YOURSELF.<\/strong> Seriously, there\u2019s not one situation that I regret being myself and just keeping it real. Even if some people aren\u2019t receptive to you, they don\u2019t matter in the long run. It\u2019s the people who understand you and know where you\u2019re coming from that are the best to put your time into. This might sound incredibly obvious, but sometimes the most obvious is the hardest to do<strong>. <\/strong>It\u2019s taken me many years to realize that<strong>. <\/strong>Some people can be mean or not \u201cget you,\u201d but all of that negative energy is just not worth it.\u00a0 Surround yourself with people who don\u2019t question your uniqueness and accept you for you, awkward moments and all<strong>.<\/strong> In the long run, just keep clarity of the situation while being who you want to be, and your strong, independent self will thank you in the end.\u00a0 Cheers!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sometimes, \u00a0it\u2019s easy to raise your own expectations about a situation just because it could possibly come true. I know I\u2019m guilty of doing that \u2013 just when I like someone or I think life\u2019s going well, something goes wrong because I put too much effort into thinking about it. This is very probable when [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sistahology.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/409"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sistahology.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sistahology.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sistahology.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sistahology.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=409"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/sistahology.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/409\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":411,"href":"https:\/\/sistahology.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/409\/revisions\/411"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sistahology.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=409"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sistahology.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=409"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sistahology.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=409"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}