You don’t even have to say it I can already hear you thinking aloud. If I tell the truth in every awkward situation, there will be hell to pay with my mother/husband/kids/sister/co-workers. I get it. There are people in your life who, for various reasons, don’t want to embrace your truth. You may be thinking you have to change those people, but baby don’t even try. It will not be worth the time or energy……..
I have longed live to make other people happy, rigid people more flexible, aggressive people more empathetic, and on and on. I simply came to the realization that this never worked, and it was driving me insane and causing so much stress in my life.
The key I found that worked for me is to stay far away from the idea of “making” someone do, feel or think anything. This is not your job. Instead your job and focus should be to maximize your own personal happiness, kindness and health and let everyone else choose to follow or not.
You’ve already had enough life experiences to notice when a situation, a person or a task is marked as “poison”. Remember how much that situation hurt you the last time and decide in this moment you don’t want to feel that level of pain again and that you choose happiness! This process may require small steps and time. Tell the truth and stay minding your own business. Anything else might be poison. You may one day real soon wake up and realize that you feel better, wiser, healthier and SO much happier. Free Yourself. Cheers!