sistahology.com

As I have grown older I often felt the need to write about my life and my life experiences.  This is what led me to launch Sistahology.com.  As I have grown older I not only write about the happenings of the day, but I also explore the happenings in my life.  We all go through something and I have often found myself noting in real time what I am going through on a daily basis the highs and the lows, the pretty & ugly.  It’s my life I have to own my experiences.  Despite the need, it wasn’t until I created Sistahology.com (a private website to journal) that I felt my private thoughts were protected and safe.  I journal as much as I can it’s a life ritualfor me.

We may not always be comfortable sharing our deepest feelings with others but we’d better know what they are.  If we aren’t open to our own deepest truths, how will we know what we are seeking?  One of the first steps towards wholeness is telling the truth to yourself, opening your heart to yourself so that you gain clarity about what is true for you.  Writing from your heart helps you discover the depth of your soul.

Sharing our intimacies is not only healing to us, but helpsothers as well to understand that we need not be victims of the past. We should just preserve for ourselves our thoughts, feelings, and experiences, however they flow.  The ritual of writing, journaling, isn’t about spelling or grammar it’s about liberation and healing.  It grounds us in our own wisdom and clarity that emerge when we open our hearts and put a pen on us and the disguises we wear.  We resolve the issues in our past and discover our truth.  Once truth is revealed we are able to move forward and live.

As we document our lives, we begin to see patterns and connections, and develop an awareness of the things that cause us pain and suffering and those that increase our joy and happiness.  In time we become more aware of how the choices we make create our experiences, why we were happy and hopeful in April and down in the dumps in May.  Writing about our lives encourages us to be conscious of the journey and to see the distance we have traveled.   Cheers!

A sistah keeps it real (100) and she is very authentic to who she is. She as hat natural sistah-girl swagger, but by no means is she ever inappropriate.   She is a force to be reckoned with.  I encourage sistah’s not to change any of these attributes because it was born from centuries of strength, resilience and confidence.  It was necessary to survive the oppression of the world and still raise families, work and live.  It’s our DNA.  You are fly effortlessly.

There are times when people try to strip real sistah’s of that thing that distinguishes us and makes us special.  There is nothing wrong with you, you are strength, you are inspiration, you are love, just the way you are.  So, the next time someone suggest that you are broken, just remember that your essence is wonderful, and by all means please don’t lose your swagga, sistah!

 Dr. MayaAngelou states it best in her poem, “Phenomenal Woman.”

It’s the fire in my eyes

And the flash of my teeth,

The swing in my waist,

And, the joy in my feet,

I’m a woman.

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal Woman.

That’s me.

Cheers!

Learning to trust your instincts using your intuitive sense of what’s best for you is huge for any lasting success.  I’ve trusted the still, small voice of intuition my entire life.  And the only time I’ve made mistakes is when I have not listened.

It’s really more of a feeling than a voice.  The voice is humbling and it moves me to the core of my being.  We all have it.  We’re the only creatures on earth that denyand ignore it.

How many times have you gone against your gut, only to find yourself at odds with the natural flow of things? We all get caught up in the business of doing and sometimes lose our place in the flow.  But the more we can tune in to our intuition, the better off we are.  I believe its how God speaks to me, and perhaps how your higher power speaks to you.

For all the major moves and decisions in my life I’ve trusted God and my instincts.  I take in all the information I can gather.  I listen to proposals, ideas, and advice.  Then I go with my gut, what my heart feels most strongly.  I often share with others:  When you don’t know what to do, it’s simply okay to do absolutely nothing.  That’s the time to get quiet so you can hear the still small voice, you’re in personal GPS.

Cheers to trusting your instincts!

As we embrace a new year, where do you see yourself a year from now?  Five years from now?  Where do you want to be and how would you like to be living and loving?  If no clear image comes to mind, don’t panic yet.  Get busy finding the answers.  It’s your life!

It’s been said so many ways:  “Without vision, the people perish.”  “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.”  If you don’t know where you’re going, any road can and will take you there.

Naturally sometimes things have a tendency to fall apart.  But if we can embrace a positive vision and pair it with our own creative effort, organization and commitment, we can avoid slipping into chaos.

Whatever you want out of life you must first envision.  See it clearly.  Name it.  Claim it, then make detailed plans to bring it to fruition.  Dreams precede reality.  There is no human invention that was not first a vision, an image in the mind, a thought, a concept, a word.  I am a living witness to this as I made “Sistahology” a reality.

What we focus on increases in our lives.  Our thoughts and words have creative power, giving form to formless energy all around us.  When we think or speak negatively about ourselves, our body, our talents and intellect, we create the conditions to bring it to fruition.

Remember living ain’t easy!  Each day we must make a conscious effort not to see ourselves in a mirror distorted by racism, sexism, ageism, or our
painful life experiences.  Those forces will only have us deny ourselves and our power.  See the full beauty of who you are:  We are more than simply survivors.  We are thrivers, powerful and capable women born for this precious hour, minute, second.  Cheers!