Sometimes the bigger your misfortunes, the closer you are to enlightenment.  If you feel particularly tested right now, ask yourself what am being tested for!  Patience? Compassion? Resilience? Open-mindedness?  Perhaps there are some strength’s I need to further develop.  After you meditate and conclude the answer, go to work on getting these things accomplished.

If you’re going through a challenging time, remind yourself that this specific event is merely a part of your life, not your whole life.  Don’t let overwhelming events and disappointments get you down, remember “your best is yet to come!”  Cheers.

We at Sistahology would like to let all fathers out there know that we see you, and we appreciate you!  We realize it takes men to raise children and women cannot ever fulfill the complete role of a father to his child.  I like many other women have had to do more as single woman raising my children but it has always been a joy for me to be there for my sons regardless of who was absent or why!  My children will always be my joy and not my excuse or a sad story.  I have always realized I could not and that God did not create me to be a father but a damn good mother and that meant giving and being whatever I had to for my sons.  That’s what real parents do!  There are NO rewards and accolades for doing what you are suppose to do………….

Despite the way society likes to generalize and portray many fathers of color in a negative light we know there are still very many great black men out there holding it down and taking care of their families and working hard to remain an active and important factor in your child’s life. So in recognition of all of the active family men, cheers! Happy Father’s Day. 

To my own father – R.I.P. Mr. Kelly Easter, Jr. 8/1/2008, gone but never forgotten, we love and miss you everyday Dad.

Anxiety is a useless emotion.  Its only function is to derail your focus, steal your joy & happiness, and rob you of valuable energy that you could channel into creating the life you desire for yourself. 

To knock it out, position yourself in the present moment, start by asking yourself how are things in my life right now?  Am I happy?  What will it take for me to be happy?  Good!  Dealing with the task at hand helps pave the path to a better and happier future for you.  Cheers!

The world is full of possibilities—even when you lose something you truly loved, especially when it’s by choice.

Though the concept of letting go sounds great, it’s a delicate art. You can’t successfully try to let something go, because trying is at odds with releasing. Fortunately, our subconscious minds already know what to do, if our conscious minds are willing to suggest doing it.

Right now, consider something in your life that’s ending (this might be all you think about, or you may have to ponder a bit, but you’ll find something, trust me).  As you hold this fading thing in your mind’s eye, inhale while silently repeating the phrase, Let it happen. When you exhale, think, Let it go. Keep at this for several minutes. When you feel emotions like sadness or anger begin to flow, you’ll know it’s working.
Practice this meditation consistently and you can strip most of the trauma and drama right out of your world.

No one expects instant equanimity from you, but as you repeatedly think, Let it happen, let it go, you’ll begin heading in the right direction. Relax into the bittersweet mix of emotions, and go on to the next step.

Focus on a Present Happiness.  Even during difficult times, there are things that bring you joy, or at least gratitude. Once you’re in the receptive state of letting go, think of your greatest current source of comfort or happiness—a loved one, your job, your innate determination.  Whatever it is, write it down now.

The task here is to let go of the past, and move on.  You cannot embrace new beginnings without endings.  Cheers, to new beginnings.

1. Accept that you can’t pay attention to everything you “should.”Because the information explosion is so recent, we still have beliefs left over from a time when there was much less competition for our attention. We believe we should be able to stay on top of everything. Your first step in effective attention management is to jettison this exaggerated sense of what you should be able to process. Get it through your head: There is too much information for you to handle! Good. Now that we’ve cleared that up, you can relax and deal with the reality of living in a world packed with attention demands.

2. Make prioritizing a priority.If you start a day without a clear plan about how you’re going to spend your attention, you’ll end up wasting most of it. Your first priority should be to take a little undisturbed time each day to evaluate the various demands on your attention before they show up. Do your prioritizing whenever you typically think most clearly (most people do best in the morning, but I like to take five minutes before I go to bed to preview the upcoming day). Rank tasks in order of importance and write them down. That way, when you’re being hounded for attention you’ll have a visual cue to help you focus on the most significant task first, leaving less necessary items for later—or for never.  Cheers to more simplicity.

You don’t need a map or an itinerary to experience a personal journey; you simply need a sense of adventure and maybe this reminder:  That breathless, soul-quenching feeling of awe you get when you catch a beautiful sunset. To grow, you may have to step outside your comfort zone.  Whether you want to walk farther, pedal faster, love harder or simply embrace the scenery more appreciatively, cross every bridge with a brave and open heart.  And remember you might have to cross that same bridge to get back to some part of your journey!

Life and moving forward are simply matters of the heart.  Cheers!

Listen to your inner voice. It takes practice to hear your true desires. Your passion will often come as a whisper or serendipitous event that reminds you of what’s important and what makes you happy.  This is similar to what is meant by trusting your gut or listening to your intuition.

“Everyone has an inner voice; you just have to listen to it and trust it in order to be led by it,”. “I did that, and it gave me the ability to live a life that’s true to who I am and what I really wanted.”  Cheers!

Resist seeking happiness from the outside in.  Instead, focus on gratitude practicing gestures that bring happiness from the inside out.  If you allow your self-image to be at the mercy of unpredictable events and unreliable people your happiness will be forever on a roller coaster ride!  Your happiness must always be an inside joy!  Your happiness cannot be dependent on someone else.  You own your happiness.

Try not to focus on all the ways the world has done you wrong, instead count your blessings one by one every day!  If necessary make a list daily of 5 things you are thankful for.  This is a great exercise to do at the end of the day, give thanks and appreciate for all the blessing you have been allowed to experience.  Cheers! 

Allow this season of spring to add a new beginning for you.  During the winter months we have been embracing sleep, cooler temperatures, and being bundled up to stay warm, now we can awaken.

The season of spring should open us up to new possibilities and a new light.  Spring is the season of growth, bounty, joy filled day and lots of happiness running through our veins.  These are your blessings, receive them.

You have rested during the fall and winter seasons, it’s a new season and how you embrace spring will allow you to create the fabulous summer you deserve.  Cheers to a blooming and flourishing YOU.