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If you keep going backwards with the same people that God has intentionally removed from your life, you will continue to stay stuck. There is no joy in being confused and unhappy. Get rid of old bad habits and leave them where they belong. What is meant for you will be yours, learn to let go. Dysfunction isn’t love. I have realized when someone is not meant to be a part of your life God removes them in any possible way. Just take it as a sign that person was never meant to be a part of your life and that God has a better plan for you. We may plan’ but his plans are always better, where just not in a position where we can see the future. So take blessings from every loss.

Stop thinking about how the past hurt you and start being thankful for what it taught you. Don’t get caught up in emotions and don’t pine for something that wasn’t meant to be yours. Don’t allow people with no purpose to distract you away from yours. Some people just don’t deserve the opportunity to faze you or the power to make you mad. You will get it wrong at times so expect to be judged, expect to be doubted, and expect to be talked about, but understand that your mission is greater than your mistakes. Don’t waste valuable time trying to prove yourself to pointless people. Accept where you’ve been, understand where you are, and focus on where you’re going. Let God handle the rest.  Cheers to Non-Factors, everyone has some!

You don’t have to be what other people want you to be. You don’t have to be interesting or agreeable or entertaining. You don’t have to tone yourself down, quiet your voice, or hide your feelings. You don’t have to be outgoing or spontaneous or sociable. You don’t have to be thin or beautiful or anyone’s definition of attractive. You don’t have to be anyone other than who you authentically are, and you sure as hell don’t have to spend your time and energy trying to convince people that you’re worth keeping around. The right people are going to recognize your worth. They are going to respect you, appreciate you, and accept you, without forcing you to compromise who you are. Life is too short, and your happiness is far too important, to make room for anyone who treats you otherwise.

Know that God’s plans for your life are bigger than any dream you could ever dream. Know that you are blessed beyond measure. Cheers!

Count your blessings. Gratitude is the fuel of resiliency. Train your mind to think of at least one thing for which you are thankful everyday. It is often easy to overlook the small but significant blessings in your life. Look for positive things outside of yourself, because sometimes you can’t trust your mind.

When you choose to look at the positives instead of focusing on the negatives, you strengthen your courage and your internal capacity to take on life. Look yourself in the eye and realize that you are ultimately responsible for working your way out of any situation. Give up the desire for things to be easy. Deal with the circumstances such as you find them.  Always, remember you are blessed.  Cheers!

Are you holding on to a part of your life that has long expired? Each season in life comes with an expiration date, so life is about releasing and surrendering. Give yourself permission to let go…of past regrets, failures or mistakes; unresolved pain and disappointments; or actions that you should of, would have, or could have taken ~ but you didn’t.

Choose to give in and surrender to your dream, your passion, and your calling. In life when you don’t have enough courage and insight to know that you have outgrown a situation and it’s time to move on…life will move on you.  Let go, or be dragged.  It’s your choice.  Cheers!

Real friends (and family) meet in the middle. When there’s a disagreement, they work out a solution that works for both parties – a compromise, rather than a need for the other person to change or completely give in. If someone around you is all take and no give, you have to take a stand.

It takes a great deal of courage to stand up to your enemies, but just as much to stand up to the people closest to you. Sometimes bullying comes from the most unlikely places. Be conscious of how the people in your closest social circles treat you, and look out for the subtle jabs they throw. When necessary, confront them. Do whatever it takes to give yourself the opportunity to live authentically.

Exercise your inner genius. Listen to your inner voice. Try what you want to try, go where you want to go, and explore the depths of your own intuition. Don’t accept false choices just because someone else doesn’t feel what you feel. Don’t let others leash your dreams and your future. If something feels right, it probably is. Give yourself the fair chance you deserve. You CAN, so don’t listen to anyone who says you can’t. Do anything you want as long as it’s not hurting others. Don’t take crap; you deserve better.  Cheers!

Never let someone’s opinion of you wash away your inner strength and spirit. Never sacrifice who you are or what you aspire to be because someone else sees things differently. Sometimes even those who you consider to be close confidants will carelessly crush your potential with smiles on their faces. They will discredit your ideas, exhibiting zero emotional support, and try to persuade you to forget part of the person you are, along with the person you are capable of becoming.

It usually takes just a few negative comments to kill a person’s dream. Don’t speak these negative comments to others, and don’t listen to those who do. Don’t let people interrupt you and tell you that you can’t do something. If you have a dream that you’re passionate about, you must protect it. When others can’t do something themselves, they’re going to tell you that you can’t do it either; and that’s a lie. These people are simply speaking from within the boundaries of their own limitations.

Don’t let weak minds convince you that you aren’t strong enough and smart enough. You are. Surround yourself with people who help strengthen you – those who see greatness in you, even when you don’t see it in yourself.  Cheers!

There is a time to speak out and a time to remain silent. Knowledge is knowing what to say. Wisdom is knowing whether or not to say it.

You can’t change what you refuse to confront. You can’t find peace by avoiding it. Deal with problems before they deal with your happiness. Don’t let a hard lesson harden your heart. Remember, life’s best lessons are usually learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes. When you lose something, don’t think of it as a loss; accept it as a gift that will get you on the path you were meant to travel all along. Thank your past for all the lessons, and move on. Simply say: “Dear past, thank you for the lessons and wisdom. Dear future, I’m ready for you!” Cheers!

Go forward with WINNERS in your life and leave the losers behind. This is no time to have unmotivated sad, pitiful energy draining people in your life! You can run faster with 100 motivated people going for a dream than with one toxic person around your neck. Find the courage to cut the ties with anyone who will take you back to a life that is no longer you. Don’t take their calls or feel sorry for them. They are a part of your past, so keep it that way. Seek out, find, and maintain new relationships with people who are driven, creative, ambitious, motivated, and inspiring to be around…people who will stretch your mind and your life vision.

Keep moving forward! Sometimes people may try to shut you down, but they have no idea who they’re messing with!! KEEP MOVING! Life will test you to see how serious and determined you are. Don’t take it personally ~ it comes with the territory. No test…no testimony. KEEP MOVING!! You have to fake a smile when you want to cry…but keep moving forward!! When your back is up against the wall lean into it and stand tall. Keep moving…even if you fall. Crawl if you must ~ look up, but keep moving forward! Every dream comes with a test, and demands of you to bring out your best. Believe in yourself, unleash your power, and KEEP MOVING FORWARD!!  Cheers!

Never let someone’s opinion of you wash away your inner strength and spirit. Never sacrifice who you are or what you aspire to be because someone else sees things differently. Sometimes even those who you consider to be close confidants will carelessly crush your potential with smiles on their faces. They will discredit your ideas, exhibiting zero emotional support, and try to persuade you to forget part of the person you are, along with the person you are capable of becoming.

It usually takes just a few negative comments to kill a person’s dream. Don’t speak these negative comments to others, and don’t listen to those who do. Don’t let people interrupt you and tell you that you can’t do something. If you have a dream that you’re passionate about, you must protect it. When others can’t do something themselves, they’re going to tell you that you can’t do it either; and that’s a lie. These people are simply speaking from within the boundaries of their own limitations.

Don’t let weak minds convince you that you aren’t strong enough and smart enough. You are. Surround yourself with people who help strengthen you – those who see greatness in you, even when you don’t see it in yourself.  Cheers!

There are some things that you’re just finished with! So stop turning around and looking back. There are some bridges that you should never cross again. Be real…you simply can’t put humpty dumpty together again. Your past should be just that…your past. Whatever you earned or learned, loved or lost, bought or sold…it can never be the same…that time is gone forever. Embrace the pain of letting go of that which is not good for you. Step into it…you’re stronger than the pain. You can survive, and you will thrive again. Get off of the emotional roller coaster, and take back your mind. Stop the rewind button, and use the memories from your past to build a better life. People and situations show us parts of ourselves that we could never ever see by ourselves. Seek the wisdom, learn the lesson, and move on.  Cheers!